I often have small conflicts with people I'm dating. I quickly get a sense of how it feels to resolve our conflicts. Often, it's been pretty good -- I tend to date people who are quite receptive to feedback. And if they aren't, it becomes a problem very quickly. The progression of my romantic relationships depends on good conflict resolution.

This is not true for my friendships. (I'm not sure of all the reasons why.) I tend to smooth things over with friendships much more often. If they bother me a little, it's not a big deal, because we aren't trying to be that close or spend that much time together.

And then when a bigger problem does come up, I find myself worried: how will they handle the conflict?

With many people, if I tell them that they did something that bothered me, then there's a good chance they will refuse responsibility and just blame me for being upset. ("Many people" is meant to be very vague -- I really don't know the percentage, since I'm rarely testing this.)

Last time I initiated a conflict with a friend, I only did it because I felt like I really needed to, and their reactions made me give up on them.

I vaguely wish that my friendships involved more small conflicts early on. So I could check how conflicts go between us, before getting invested. But I'm not sure how to do this -- it doesn't happen by default for me.