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Ended up deactivating my facebook yesterday. I wish I could have emotionally handled whatever was going on, but the only way I know how to productively deal with expressions of anger at that depth, apparently doesn't scale past one or two people at a time.

Last night I felt really conflicted about it. Like, I had just been trying to get people to give me harsh feedback, hadn't I? Doesn't this undermine that, or feel like a petty table-flipping move?

I still have some of those worries, but today I'm feeling like it was obviously the right move. Like if I had a gangrenous limb or something and had cut it off: It's pretty awful that I lost a limb, but it's way better than losing my whole self. Plus in this case I can reattach it if I figure out how to get rid of the gangrene.

in reply to Ben Weinstein-Raun

I noticed you deactivated and didn't perceive it like a table flip. It is very stressful to have this type of conflict on the internet! I'm disappointed when people say mean stuff in reaction to feedback, not when they walk away and give themselves space
in reply to Ben Weinstein-Raun

what was going on on FB that made you want to deactivate it, if you want to share? the last thing I looked at of yours seemed to be positively received
in reply to Gina Stuessy

I think this was a different post; basically, I wrote a post about the United Healthcare CEO assassination (the gist was, "it's wrong to express glee about someone's death"). It got a decent number of mildly positive reactions, but also a small cascade of intense negative reactions, a couple of which were kinda vicious.

Daniel Filan doesn't like this.